You Are Important (#3)
As a child growing up physically, mentally, and emotionally abused and later adopted, my life didn't look promising. In fact, many thought that I would follow in my mother's footsteps of neglect, drug, and alcohol abuse or abandon my children when I became a parent like my father did. Now, please don't misinterpret my thoughts as disrespectful to my biological parents, because that isn't valid. I love both of my parents dearly. I'm just sharing my story. Follow me!
During the roughest moments of my childhood, I developed a strong passion and a desire to help others. As an adult I often find myself wanting more for others then they want from themselves. I struggle with these thoughts because I can envision each person thriving and succeeding in their lives.
Physical training is a gateway to help people realize there is something much bigger in life. Training is a vehicle to transport people, to realize their full potential, not just at the gym, but at work, at home, at church, and in the community.
Some give up when they are so close to their breakthrough. My goal is to get each person to reach deep within themselves and grab hold of that inner strength. The strength, that often, they don't realize they have deep within. The strength that can be used to empower them to face and conquer the personal struggles and/or circumstances they have in their lives. Not just a physical strength, but an emotional strength.
Sometimes watching the pain and struggles takes me back to my childhood. I don't want anyone to be defeated by what they are dealing with in life. I want others to have a sense of self-empowerment to overcome their circumstances and strengthen them.
Many of us, including myself, have had major setbacks in our life that have deeply wounded us. Often the wounds are so deep that we struggle to face each and every day. I've been there!
Some of us have lost loved ones that were very close, lost employment that has brought financial burdens upon our families, sustained injuries that may have ended careers or are struggling to get back to a career from an injury or health issue, and the list goes on.
My question for you, "Have you given up on the most important person in your life?" That person is YOU!
If you've given up on yourself then there's no way that you're giving your spouse, children, friends, or anyone that you love, The real you. You're robbing them if you can't love you.
How can WE, myself included, restore the hopes that we had in our youth? It wasn't a fairy tale. The innocent thoughts you had as a kid, of living an amazing life was your faith giving you a snapshot of what your future could become. As children, we were mentally and emotionally free, nothing could stop us. The worst disappointment might have been missing the ice cream truck to buy the .50 cent drumstick that we desperately craved. Today that drumstick is literally $1.39 and it is much smaller -- WOW! Talk about disappointment - they are robbing us!
Seriously, we were fearless! We were able to dream and visualize how we wanted our future to look. What happened to those moments?
Somehow life distracted us and allowed our minds to be polluted with fears, doubt, and hopelessness. Maybe it was someone you've listened to and accepted the lies that they've told you. Negative comments come from negative people, people that don't believe in themselves and want others to feel the same.
What happened to your dreams? What's your purpose on this earth? What is your passion? What do you love doing so much that you would you devote your time for free?
Look at these passions as your GIFTS. That is where your purpose and wealth lies. I guarantee you, it will be connected to you being of service to someone else. That's what this life is all about. Serving others!
You weren't put on this earth just for you. How can you share your passion and your love to empower someone else? You are here to help someone else.
I'm not asking you to be a doormat or to be taken for granted. I'm asking you to seek out your gifts, own them, have confidence in them and serve others. Do something so simple, or something so great, that it will change someone's day or someone's life.
It can be as easy as a smile to a stranger in the grocery store. Make a struggling family dinner or buy them groceries. Carry the groceries to an elders car for them. Buy a pair of shoes for a child whose family can’t afford them. Donate used or new sports equipment to the local school and designate it for an athlete that just needs "a little help." Surprise a neighbor and pitch in to help with a home improvement job.
Strengthen your community, not with gossip but with encouragement.
Fitness was my escape, then a very wise man, my Uncle Henry, showed me it was MY GIFT. A gift to be used to Empower, Love and Inspire every person to do their best.
Keep Pushin' Yourself
I'm asking each of you to dig deep within yourself and give birth to the greatness that lies within you. We are all pregnant with so much potential to accomplish great things and live a life of love, joy, and success. GIVE BIRTH TO IT! The pain and discomfort you're feeling right now are labor pains. You're about to give birth to your potential and your purpose. The real you wants to manifest itself in this world. IT'S TIME! PUSH! PUSH! PUSH!
Don't quit, KEEP PUSHIN'!
You're almost there.
YOU don't have to settle for mediocrity any longer!
The only person that can stop you is YOU. Strive to be your best.
Strengthen Your Foundation
To the fathers, continue to support your kids' dreams. You are their superhero. If you don't believe in them, then how do you expect them to believe in themselves or your future grandchildren? I wish my father would have been in my life to offer me advice. However my dad did something very powerful for me. He taught me to never be like him. That's motivating in itself! Please don't tell your children that they can't achieve their dreams. You will pollute their minds with doubt and fear. They need your attention, praise, and support.
To the mothers, continue to be the beautiful nurturing souls that you are. No matter how embarrassed your son or daughter pretends to be when you give them hugs and kisses, KEEP DOING IT, because secretly, they love it. The love and attention builds security that you are there and they can always run to you in a time of need or wisdom.
Sometimes that's all that I needed growing up, but my mother was too blind to realize it. Mothers, you are so valuable and can never be replaced.
Tick, tock, the clock is running.
Make the most of each day, take nothing for granted. Time waits on no man. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a GIFT. That's why it's called the PRESENT.
God bless you!
Chris D. Downing